Sunday, May 26, 2013

The 12 Commandments of flaming


1 Make things up about your opponent:

It's important to make your lies sound true. Preface your argument with the word "clearly."
"Clearly, Brian Hillis is a racist, and a dirtball to boot."

2 Be an armchair psychologist:

You're a smart person. You've heard of Freud. You took a psychology course in college. Clearly, you're qualified to psychoanalyze your opponent.
"Peach Pshawski, by using the word 'zucchini' in her posting, shows she has a bad case of ... "

3 Cross-post your flames:

Everyone on the net is just waiting for the next literary masterpiece to leave your terminal. From OPINION to EZ-READER to PETS to CHIT-CHAT, they're all holding their breaths until your next flame. Therefore, post everywhere.

4 Conspiracies abound:

If everyone's against you, the reason can't possibly be that you're a ******. There's obviously a conspiracy against you, and you will be doing the entire net a favor by exposing it.

5 Lawsuit threats:

This is the reverse of Commandment #4 (sort of like the Yin & Yang of flaming). Threatening a lawsuit is always considered to be in good form. "By saying that I've posted to the wrong group, Didley has libelled me, slandered me, and sodomized me. See you in court, Didley."

6 Force them to document their claims:

Even if Ralph Gagliano states outright that he likes tomato sauce on his pasta, you should demand documentation. If Newsweek hasn't written an article on Ralph's pasta preferences, then Ralph's obviously lying.

7 Use foreign phrases:

French is good, but Latin is the lingua franca of flaming. You should use the words "ad hominem" at least three times per article. Other favorite Latin phrases are "ad nauseum," "vini, vidi, vici," "fetuccini alfredo,"...

8 Tell 'em how smart you are:

Why use intelligent arguments to convince them you're smart when all you have to do is tell them? State that you're a member of Mensa or Mega or Dorks of America. Tell them the scores you received on every exam since high school. "I got an 800 on my SATs, LSATs, GREs, MCATs, and I can also spell the word 'premeiotic.'"

9 Accuse your opponent of censorship.

It is your inalienable right to post whatever the hell you want to the net. Anyone who tries to limit your cross-posting or move a flame war to alt.fan.karl-malden.nose is either a communist, a fascist, or both.

10 Doubt their existence:

You've never actually seen your opponent, have you? And since you're the center of the universe, you should have seen them by now, shouldn't you? Therefore, they do not exist! This is the beauty of flamers' logic.

11 Lie, cheat, steal, leave the toilet seat up.

12 When in doubt, insult:

If you forget the other 11 rules, remember this one. At some point during your wonderful career as a flamer, you will undoubtedly end up in a flame war with someone who is better than you. This person will expose your lies, tear apart your arguments, make you look generally like a bozo. At this point, there's only one thing to do: insult the dirtbag!!! 
"Oh yeah? Well, your mother does strange things with ... "


Sunday, May 19, 2013

Jante Law

The Jante Law refers to a pattern of group behaviour towards individuals within Scandinavian communities, which negatively portrays and criticizes success and achievement as unworthy and inappropriate.

It has been observed as a form of behaviour for centuries, but was identified as a series of rules, the Jante Law, by the Norwegian/Danish author Aksel Sandemose in his novel "A fugitive crosses his tracks", where he portrays the small Danish town Jante, where nobody is anonymous.

Generally used colloquially as a sociological term to negatively describe an attitude towards individuality and success claimed to be common in Scandinavia, it refers to a supposed snide, jealous and narrow small-town mentality which refuses to acknowledge individual effort and places all emphasis on the collective, while punishing those who stand out as achievers.

The term may be used by those individuals who feel they are not allowed to take credit for their achievements, or to point out their belief that another person is being overly critical.

There are ten different rules in the law as defined by Sandemose, but they are all variations on a single theme and are usually referred to as a homogeneous unit: Don't think you're anyone special or that you're better than us.

The ten rules are:
1. Don't think that you are special.
2. Don't think that you are of the same standing as us.
3. Don't think that you are smarter than us.
4. Don't fancy yourself as being better than us.
5. Don't think that you know more than us.
6. Don't think that you are more important than us.
7. Don't think that you are good at anything.
8. Don't laugh at us.
9. Don't think that anyone of us cares about you.
10. Don't think that you can teach us anything.

A further rule recognised in the novel is:
11. Don't think that there is anything we don't know about you.

In the book, those Janters who transgress this unwritten 'law' are regarded with suspicion and some hostility, as it goes against communal desire in the town, which is to preserve social stability and uniformity.
- Wikipedia

Now, this is generally considered to be Scandinavian phenomenon, but it works everywhere. There will always be people who have problems with people who seem to be this and that, whom they assume to think this and that about themselves and others. "Full of himself" and "Goody-two-shoes" :)
"You can repeatedly say that you know nothing and that you question everything, including your own beliefs, but you can still act in a way that seems to indicate that you know you are right and others are wrong."

With other words
"*I assume* you think you are right and others are wrong because *I see* the way your act in a certain manner :)"

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The Law of Jante according to Paulo Coelho
http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/01/22/the-law-of-jante-3/

the anti-Law of Jante:
"You are worth far more than you think. Your work and presence on this Earth are important, even though you may not think so. Of course, thinking in this way, you might have many problems because you are breaking the Law of Jante -- but don't feel intimidated by them, go on living without fear and in the end you will win." 

Here is Bearcy's explanation and anti-law
http://www.bearcy.com/janteloven.html

1. You are exceptional.
2. You are more worthy than anyone can measure.
3. You can do something special.
4. You have got something to give to others.
5. You have done something you can be proud of.
6. You've got a bundle of unused resources.
7. You are good at something.
8. You can accept others.
9. You've got the capability to understand and learn from others.
10. There are someone who love you.

Sunday, May 12, 2013

What is Apologetics?

by Kyle Butt
Apologetics Press
http://www.apologeticspress.org/articles/1625

You walk up to the man on the street and tell him that Jesus Christ loves him and died so he could receive forgiveness of his sins. You explain that everyone should obey Jesus because He is the Son of God. The man wants to know how you know this information. You inform him that the Bible, the inspired Word of God, declares it to be true. He wants to know two things: (1) How can you prove that there is a God?; and (2) How can you prove that the Bible is His Word? He is not being belligerent or cantankerous; he simply wants some good evidence that would warrant the total overhaul of his life you are asking him to make.

It is now your responsibility to present solid, rational arguments that prove the things you have affirmed. You must defend the propositions you have presented. You are appointed for the defense of the Gospel (Philippians 1:17, NKJV).

The term "apologetics" derives from the Greek word apologia, which means "to defend" or "to make a defense." Thus, apologetics is a discipline dedicated to the defense of something. There can be as many different types of apologetics as there are beliefs in the world: atheistic apologetics, Hindu apologetics, Buddhist apologetics, Christian apologetics, ad infinitum. However, generally when the discipline is discussed, most people associate it with Christian apologetics. Therefore, for the remainder of this discussion, when I use the term apologetics, I will be referring specifically to Christian apologetics.

What is apologetics?

Christian philosopher Dick Sztanyo has suggested: "Apologetics is the proclamation and defense of the gospel of Christ regardless of whenever, wherever, and by whomever it is challenged." The apostle Peter used apologetics when he appealed to the empty tomb on Pentecost.

Paul used apologetics when he quoted the stoic poets to draw attention to God's existence as he addressed the Athenians.

Christ used apologetics when He appealed to a Roman coin to prove that Jews should pay taxes.
We can see, then, that the word apologetics carries no hint of "apologizing"—in the sense of being sorry or ashamed. On the contrary, the word houses the exact opposite idea of intelligent vindication by vigorous argument. In fact, Paul stated in 2 Corinthians 10:4-5: "For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." Apologetics vigorously defends the truth by refuting arguments that exalt themselves above God's Word.

What tools, then, can apologetics use to "cast down" faulty arguments?

Its toolbox is as endlessly deep as it is long. Any discipline—from astronomy to zoology—can be called upon to come to the aid of apologetics.

Just as Peter used the physical evidence of the empty tomb, just as Paul used contemporary literature, and jut as Jesus used an inscription on a coin, modern apologists can use archaeology, literature, science, morality, technology, and countless other facets of human life to defend Christianity.

A small child can watch ants hard at work and testify to the wisdom of the book of Proverbs.

An astrophysicist can contemplate the Second Law of Thermodynamics and maintain that the world will not last forever.

An archaeologist can find an ancient inscription about a people known as the Hittites and assert that the Bible has accurate information about this ancient group of people.

A professor of literature can read poetry from ages past and ascertain that mankind always has desired to worship a Creator Who is infinitely higher than humanity.

From the heights of the mountains to the depths of the oceans, facts surface that provide an ample array of ammunition that can be fired from the cannon of apologetics.

However, the machinery of apologetics can operate only on the fuel of reason, for without reason apologetics has no sure foundation.

The Merriam-Webster Collegiate Dictionary defines reason as "the power of comprehending, inferring, or thinking, especially in orderly, rational ways."

Paul contrasted reason with insanity in Acts 26:24-25: "Now as he thus made his defense, Festus said with a loud voice, 'Paul, you are beside yourself! Much learning is driving you mad!' But he said, 'I am not mad, most noble Festus, but speak the words of truth and reason.' "

God and His spokesmen always have spoken rational, reasonable truths.

God employed reason to convince Isaiah's listeners of their sin: " 'Come now, and let us reason together,' says the Lord, 'Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow' " (Isaiah 1:18).

When Samuel spoke to the Israelites at the coronation of Saul, he said: "Now therefore, stand still, that I may reason with you before the Lord concerning all the righteous acts of the Lord which He did to you and your fathers" (1 Samuel 12:7).

From the dawn of time, God presented man with the facts, and then allowed man to use reason to reach correct conclusions. Thus, Romans 1:20 states: "For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made…."

Reason provides for the removal of all contradictory and fallacious arguments, leaving only those facts that are consistent and correct.

The Christian religion, at its core, is based upon historically verifiable facts. The Bible is not a sourcebook of wise proverbs that somehow stand upon their own merit. Without an establishment of the facts concerning the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus, the Word of God as we know it—even with all of its sound wisdom and practical guidance—is nothing more than a devotional book full of helpful platitudes that deserves to be placed on the shelf next to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. By using historical facts that are consistent and correct, apologetics makes its defense by appealing to man's capacity to reason.

God never has desired that His human creatures blindly accept unreasonable propositions postulated by perverse persons. He does not want us to be "children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness by which they lie in wait to deceive (Ephesians 4:14). On the contrary, He demands that we "test all things; hold fast what is good" (2 Thessalonians 5:21).

In the end, however, apologetics can soften only the hearts of those who agree to be honest with themselves and to deal honestly and reasonably with the available evidence. There is much truth in the old adage: "A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still."

What is counter-apologetics?

Counter-apologetics is the term used to describe the process of providing rational objections to arguments made by religious apologists. **While this process could also be called 'apologetics' (based on the strict definition), the terms 'apologetics' and 'apologist' have become virtually synonymous with Christian (or religious) apologetics.**

This redefinition carries implications about the burden of proof and additional concerns that seem to demand that a different, yet similar, term be used to describe objections to traditional religious apologetics.


Iron Chariots is intended to provide information on apologetics and counter-apologetics. We'll be collecting common arguments and providing responses, information and resources to help counter the glut of misinformation and poor arguments which masquerade as "evidence" for religious claims.

The complexity of issues surrounding religion ensures that any proper assessment requires us to delve into a number of philosophical, historical and sociological topics. Our ultimate goal is to provide a robust and definitive resource for:
* atheists seeking responses to common apologetic arguments
* theists who are questioning the efficacy of their beliefs
* apologists who feel that their "pet" argument is above reproach
* individuals of any philosophical ideal who have an interest in religious studies

Sunday, May 5, 2013

12 Rules for Constructive Communication


Destructive communication erodes self-esteem and harms relationships. Such communication patterns may be destructive, but, sadly, plenty of people fall into the trap of indulging in them. If you and your relationship partners follow these rules and steer clear of the traps of destructive communication, you will almost certainly feel better about each other and your relationship.

**Use I-messages instead of You-messages**

You-messages sound blaming and accusing. With an I-message, you can convey the same message without sounding blaming. 

For example:
You-message: "You left the dishes in the sink again."
I-message: "When you don't clean up after yourself, I feel taken advantage of."

**Communicate the entire message**

Complete messages include four components:
Observations: neutral statements of fact
Thoughts: your own opinions and beliefs
Feelings: descriptions of your emotions
Needs: a statement of what you need or want from the other person

Example: "The weekend is coming up. I hope we can go to the movies together. I would like to spend some time with you."

An incomplete message leaves out one or more of these components. It might sound like this: "I hope we can go to the movies this weekend." There isn't really anything wrong with this statement, but the first one is more complete and will more likely result in the speaker getting what he or she wants.

**Don't use your feelings as weapons**

Describe what you are feeling as objectively as possible, not aggressively. Be specific and keep your voice under control.
For example:
Objective: "I felt really hurt when you said that I probably wouldn't pass the bar exam the first time."
Aggressive: (yelling) "You are such an idiot! How dare you insult me like that!"

**Use specific language** 

When you have a complaint, be specific. For example, "I'm upset that you left the food out on the table" is clearer than saying, "Thanks for the mess you left me." The first statement is less likely to produce defensiveness and leaves little room for misunderstanding.

**Focus on the problem, not the person**

Consider how different these two statements sound:
"You are such a complete slob."
"I wish you would take your stuff upstairs."

Attacking someone's personality or character—rather than a specific behavior—is different from simply expressing a complaint. A complaint focuses on a specific action.

Criticism is more blaming and more global. It sounds like this: "You always mess up the budget. Can't you do anything right?"

Behavior like this is damaging to a relationship because:
· Criticism is destructive rather than constructive.
· It involves blame.
· Criticisms are global and tend to be generalizations (you always, you never, etc.).
· Criticisms attack the other person personally.
· It feels overwhelming to be on the receiving end.

**Stop bringing up ancient history** 

It's more constructive to focus on the issue at hand, and not bring up past hurts. When you are upset with your partner and add past issues to the discussion, it can only escalate the conflict. It feels unfair and can never be productive. If you still have feelings about past issues, it is important to resolve them and move on, not use them as weapons every time you have a disagreement with your partner.

**Watch out for mixed messages** 

Keep your statements clean, avoiding the temptation to mix compliments and complaints. For example, let's say that you meet your friend at a cocktail party. You think she looks nice, but her dress seems a little too provocative.

Straight message: "You look very nice tonight."
Mixed message: "You look so pretty. I would never have the nerve to wear that."

**Pay attention to your body language** 

Your words are only part of the message you communicate. If you say "How nice to see you" while frowning, your message becomes unclear. Think about what message you want to convey and be sure that your body is in harmony with it. Watch out for things like these:
· Rolling your eyes
· Crossing your legs and arms
· Tapping your foot
· Clenching your teeth

**Pay attention to your emotions and keep from becoming overwhelmed**

If you are calm, you are less likely to say things you'll later regret, things that could be destructive to your relationship. You will be less likely to become defensive and shut your partner out. Here are some ways to calm yourself:
· Pay attention to your physical responses. Is your heart racing? Are you breathing faster? If you are, take a time-out.
· Leave the room. Go for a drive. Do something relaxing. Listen to music or do relaxation exercises.
· Make a conscious effort to calm yourself down. Say things to yourself like:
"I'm very upset right now, but it'll be okay. I still love her."
"Even though we disagree, we still have a good relationship."
"We can work this out. We're partners."

**Resolve negative feelings** 

If you have bad feelings about your partner, take steps to resolve them. Don't let them grow into feelings of contempt. When you engage in behavior (verbal or nonverbal) that conveys a lack of respect, you are placing your relationship in serious danger. This includes obvious abuse, and also insults, making faces, and name-calling. Any relationship that is plagued by abusiveness and negativity will have a very difficult time surviving.

**Don't be defensive** 

It is understandable to react defensively when you are in a conflict situation, but it can be dangerous to a relationship. Defensiveness tends to escalate the conflict and does nothing to resolve it. Some examples of defensive behavior include:
· Denying responsibility (I did not!)
· Making excuses (I couldn't help it; traffic was awful.)
· Ignoring what your partner says and throwing a complaint back (Yeah, well, what about the mess you left yesterday?)
· Saying "Yes," but you are whining, rolling your eyes or making a face

**Don't shut down**

This behavior is called stonewalling. You are shut down when you are refusing to communicate, storming out of the room, or any kind of withdrawing. When a person is stonewalling, communication is impossible because he or she is refusing to participate. When it becomes a regular pattern of communication, stonewalling is very damaging to a relationship.


These rules are for pair relationships, but can easily be adjusted for internet communications
In my mind the goal of internet communications, just as any other communications, is to reach a deeper understanding of others, to be understood yourself, to share and receive information and to find some sort of agreement of solutions to problems at hand.

If you "communicate" just to "win", to prove everyone you're right, to shut down the opposition, to silence diversity, you don't communicate, and shouldn't be surprised when people stop talking with you.

*I-messages*

Blaming and accusing isn't very constructive, even when your object is a politician or some unnamed "you", "one" or "they". It always works better to say "I am horrified by what happened at the Mediterranean" than "the Israeli pirates attacked the ships and killed a lot of innocent, unarmed help workers!" Mainly because your feelings are undeniable truth, while your flaming accusations are not. 

It really isn't functional, constructive, productive, helpful or beneficial to anything or anyone to scream "Obama is a Communist Pig!" 
Of course you have the right to say anything you want, but saying anything isn't always the right thing to do. 
Think a bit what it is you wish to convey with your words. What is it in Communism you find so scary? What is it in President Obama's actions that scare you? What is it you are afraid of? What do you mean with "pig"? Barack Obama is obviously not a pig, but a human being, so which "suidine" charasteristics are you actually referring to? I doubt it is their cleanliness or intelligence ;) 

 While spreading flaming exclamations around, all you achieve is feeding panic, especially inside yourself. Soon you will be hating President Obama without being able to explain why, and won't be able to have intelligent discussions with people about why one shouldn't vote for him in the next election. I doubt that is what you wish to achieve.

So: communicate the entire message

For example:

"President Obama created the health reform.
I think it is unnecessary, too expensive, taking from the people who work to give to the people who don't work, I think it rewards lazyness and selfishness - people won't work because it doesn't pay, and because one gets on fine without working. It makes me worried for my own economy, I have to work now more to get paid the same as before, because I am forced to pay someone else's healthcare. I don't want to do that, I want to keep my money myself, and pay what I decide to pay. I don't like this at all, and I want back to the healthcare we had before."

People would probably respond by showing their compassion, agreeing with that you should be in charge of your own paycheck, and then you could discuss what could be done for the people who are too sick to work and therefore cannot afford healthcare either, or what could be done for people who suffer an accident and cannot work for some time because of that, and loose their health insurance, job, and so on.

Unfortunately, a lot of people don't dare to speak openly about their own thoughts and especially their feelings, because it is common practice to mock people who express their feelings, as if feelings don't matter. 

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Generalization is to be avoided, because it doesn't help solve the problems. 

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There is no body language in the internet, but there are emoticons, and the use of emoticons can be just as subtle, contradictory and offensive as the use of body language. Also, one should be very careful with words on-line, as words are practically all we have to get ourselves understood.

"I can't be bothered to read that!" is equivalent to rolling eyes, and is used only to insult other people. What it really does is express some very negative qualities YOU have.

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Remember, if you enter a discussion when emotionally upset, you are bound to say something stupid. You don't HAVE TO enter the discussion immediately. You can wait several days to calm down before you answer. It's the internet, not life. Your real life takes precedence over ANY internet debate. Who says you weren't sick, out of town, entertaining real life guests, your internet provider wasn't working etc. etc. There are thousands of reasons to why you cannot respond immediately. If someone expects you to respond A.S.A.P. to an email, post or comment, it's their problem, not yours. So, calm down first and try to remember what is your aim with the internet communication. No, you don't have a love relationship with all the millions of internet users, not even with your internet friends, but the aim is "to reach a deeper understanding of others, to be understood yourself, to share and receive information and to find some sort of agreement of solutions to problems at hand."

It is ok to have different opinions on things. It is ok to disagree. It is ok to express different opinions and disagreement.

But - I personally HATE "let's agree to disagree", when people use it to get out of an uncomfortable discussion, without even trying to UNDERSTAND what the other person thinks. People can be discussing of two different things, "fence and fence posts" as it's called in Finland, and then "agreeing to disagree" is saying that "you think a cat is not a dog and I think a dog is not a cat, let's agree to disagree". 

Also, one thing we cannot disagree is the rules of engagement and the common ground. We must agree on what it is we are discussing about and what is ok and not ok in the discussion.

Sunday, April 28, 2013

Arthur Schopenhauer - the art of being right


1. The Extension
2. The Homonymy
3. Generalize your Opponent's Specific Statements
4. Conceal Your Game
5. False Propositions
6. Postulate What Has To Be Proved
7. Yield Admissions Through Questions
8. Make Your Opponent Angry
9. Questions in Detouring Order
10. Take Advantage of The Nay-Sayer
11. Generalize Admissions of Specific Cases
12. Choose Metaphors Favourable to Your Proposition
13. Agree to Reject the Counter-Proposition
14. Claim Victory Despite Defeat
15. Use Seemingly Absurd Propositions
16. Arguments Ad Hominem
17. Defense Through Subtle Distinction
18. Interrupt, Break, Divert the Dispute
19. Generalize the Matter, Then Argue Against it
20. Draw Conclusions Yourself
21. Meet him With a Counter-Argument as Bad as His
22. petitio principii
23. Make Him Exaggerate his Statement
24. State a False Syllogism
25. Find One Instance to The Contrary
26. Turn The Tables
27. Anger Indicates a Weak Point
28. Persuade the Audience, Not The Opponent
29. Diversion
30. Appeal to Authority Rather Than Reason
31. This is Beyond Me
32. Put His Thesis Into Some Odious Category
33. It Applies in Theory, But Not in Practice
34. Don't Let Him Off The Hook
35. Will is More Effective Than Insight
36. Bewilder Your opponent by Mere Bombast
37. A Faulty Proof Refutes His Whole Position
38. Become Personal, Insulting, Rude

*The Extension

is to interprete the opponent's words as generally and wide as possible, while limiting the meaning of one's own words to as specific as possible. This works because it's easier to find arguments against general, loose and wide claims than to limited, narrow and specific claims.

How to respond to this:

Stay on topic. Restate the claim in the correct interpretation and remind people that even though there are several ways to interprete words, this is what you are talking about.

You will be met with: "If that's what you mean, why didn't you say so!"

That's just an effort to change the subject. Ignore it. Don't start discussing the possible interpretations, don't start explaining why you said it in the first place or didn't say, don't start discussing grammar or your persona or the errors of using the language. You can repeat your argument.

(Then you will be accused of boring people… :-D)

*The Homonymy

Some words have several meanings.

For example stalk - a part of a plant or to follow someone, bear - an animal or to carry and left (direction or past tense of leave).

Some words have different meanings in different contexts. Tautology is in logic the use of circle argument, but in rhetorics over-repetition. Semitic is in liguistic a language family and in ethnology the people speaking semitic languages, but antisemitic is a Jew-hater.

Homonymy is to deliberately misunderstand the use of the word and to argue against the interpretation that's easiest to refute.

This is met the same way the previous trick.

*Generalize your Opponent's Specific Statements

This is third form of the same technique.

Interprete the opponent's statement that is part of the discussion as if it wasn't. Treat it as if it was meant to be a general or absolute statement and refute the applications of the statement you can.
Comes to mind several discussions with Xian apologists… the existence of absolute truth (there is only one absolute truth and that is that absolute truth doesn't exist), the nature of tolerance (I tolerate everything but intolerance), etc.

To respond to this is to specify. "I was speaking of this and this, not of that."

These three tricks are part of the "ignoratio elenchi" group - irrelevant conclusion or thesis.

The opponent argues against something not said. Sure, the arguments are true, and therefore the attacker believes (or acts as if) to have refuted your argument, but the arguments are totally irrelevant to the discussion at hands.

All you need to refute the "ignoratio elenchi" fallacies is to point out that even though they might be correct, they are totally irrelevant to the issue. After that, ignore the efforts to make them relevant.
"Red herring" and "tu quoque" fallacies are examples of "Ignoratio elenchi".

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Conceal your game

To avoid that your opponent finds out what you are after and manages to refute your statement, sprinkle the premisses of the conclusion in the discussion randomly and "hidden". Then when several of these are accepted as valid or not refuted in the discussion, combine them and present your conclusion.

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False Propositions

Prove that your opponent's propositions are wrong, and you have proven your opponent's thinking is wrong.

This is related to the "Guilt by Association" argument.

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Postulate What Has To Be Proved
(postulate: to assume without proof, or as self-evident)

Begging the question.

One can do this by
- using another name of what has to be proved
- making a general assumption covering the particular point in dispute
(all human knowledge is uncertain, therefore one cannot trust the modern medicine)
- using the proof of any premiss of the argument as proof of all the premisses of the argument
- using particulars to prove the general
(Jolly is a dog, Bebe is a dog, Lady is a dog, so all your pets are dogs.)

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Yield Admissions Through Questions

Ask many questions that cannot be easily and shortly answered and pick from the responses the admissions you need for your argument.

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Make your opponent angry

When one is angry, one isn't thinking straight, one makes hasty decisions, one misses advantages. If nothing else, one leaves the discussion as to not to make mistakes.
Be unfair. Make fun of your opponent. Lie. Slander things important to him/her. Be insolent.

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Questions in Detouring Order

Trick the opponent by concealing the purpose of the questions by asking them in random order. (conceal your game)

Use the answers to benefit your purpose, by deliberately misinterpreting if necessary. (strategies 1, 2, 3)

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Take Advantage of The Nay-Sayer

If your opponent usually answers negatively to questions you want him to answer positively, use the reverse psychology - form your questions in a way that it seems you are anxious to get a positive answer, when in fact the negative is what fits your purposes.

You can also disguise the question by asking a "real" question, or form the question so that you can use his answer to confirm what you want to be confirmed, what ever he answers. (Have you stopped beating your wife yet?)

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Generalize Admissions of Specific Cases

If your opponent grants you parts of the premisses, don't ask him if he also admits the conclusion - act as if he had admitted it. No-one will notice the difference.

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Choose Metaphors Favourable to Your Proposition

Use words, metaphores, formulations, analogues that creates the emotional response that benefits your purpose.

Are Palestinian suicide-bombers "freedom fighters" or "terrorists"? 
Female Genital Mutilation or Female Circumcision?
Abortion or Murder?
Patriotism or ultra-nationalism?
"the existing order" or "antiquated prejudice".

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Agree to Reject the Counter-Proposition

Give your opponent two options that LOOK as if they were opposite options. Make the "unwanted" option look as bad as you can, and the "wanted" option as good as you can.

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Claim Victory Despite Defeat

Just ignore what is happening and act as if you have won. If you are loud enough, it might work.

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Use Seemingly Absurd Propositions

If you find it hard to prove your point, present a new proposition, which is true but the truth is hard to see. Looks absurd but in reality isn't.

If your opponent rejects it, show the truth in the proposition thus showing how stupid your opponent is, and use the momentum to push the first point through. If your opponent accepts it, you have been proven right, and you can use the momentum to push the first point through.

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Arguments Ad Hominem

See if your opponent's argument is in ANY WAY inconsistent with another argument he has made or admitted - it's enough if one of his friends or anyone who has agreed with him at any time has made the argument, and it's enough if you can make the argument LOOK inconsistent.

"There's something wrong with USA"
"Then why don't you move somewhere else?"

"I am against death penalty"
"You support abortion, which is nothing but death penalty for innocent, defenseless children"

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Defense Through Subtle Distinction

When your opponent presents a counter-proof, bring forth a subtle distinction of your argument, which makes the counter-proof irrelevant and thus invalid.

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Interrupt, Break, Divert the Dispute

If you notice that your opponent is about to win the argument, do anything to stop the discussion from going to that direction. Take a break, leave the discussion all together, change the subject, lead the discussion into another area…

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Generalize the Matter, Then Argue Against it

If you are challenged to produce the objection to a specific point in the argument, and you don't have any, talk against a general, in some way relevant point and bore the people with a lot of words - sound very credible.

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Draw Conclusions Yourself

This is related to "Generalize Admissions of Specific Cases"
When you have presented your arguments, continue to conclusion, whether your opponent have admitted the arguments or not.

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Meet him With a Counter-Argument as Bad as His

If your opponent uses "bad" arguments, logical fallacies, shallow arguments or arguments that SOUND wise (but aren't), you could counter them by showing the lack, but it's better to throw in a just as "bad" argument.

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petitio principii

If your opponent requires you to admit something that will prove his point, claim it's "begging a question" - the argument in itself is "evidence" of that the argument is true.

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Make Him Exaggerate his Statement

Contradicting and arguing the point will irritate your opponent and make him exaggerate his statement, extend the statement beyond its limits, and then you can refute the exaggerated form, thus making it look as if you have refuted the original form.

If someone tries to do this to you, stop him at once and say "That's what I said, and no more".

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State a False Syllogism

Syllogism is a kind of logical argument in which one proposition is inferred from two others.
Twist and turn the opposition's argument and drive from it other arguments, which you then prove to be absurd, dangerous, false or wrong.

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Find One Instance to The Contrary

Find one example to which the opponent's conditions don't match.
"I love green - all my clothes are green"
"no, they are not. You're wearing blue jeans."

If this technique is used against you, see if
1) the example is true
2) the example is an example of the group you are referring to
3) the example is consistent - it might only look consistent.

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Turn The Tables

Use the opponent's arguments against him.
"It is because of ABC I think blah blah blah"
"but it is just because of ABC the opposite is true."

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Anger Indicates a Weak Point

If your opponent shows any signs of anger, start pushing the point, because his anger can be abused, and because emotional response indicates a weak point in the argument.

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Persuade the Audience, Not The Opponent

If you can't attack the opponent's arguments nor persona, use the "argumentum ad auditores" - if the public agrees with you, you must be right. If you don't have audience, get one.

(J.W. used this very much - he had always his "leash of bitches", rather stupid women who thought he was all that and more, and who would blissfully agree with anything he said. So if he had nowhere to go, he stated something irrelevant but true, or something that just sounded good, and asked his court if they saw the sense in it - which they always did, of course - and then they started ridiculing me…)

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Diversion

If you find yourself in a tough spot, change the subject. It's good if the new subject is seemingly relevant to the previous subject, but it doesn't matter. Present the issue as if it was very relevant and important and as if it proved your opponent wrong.

"The Jews control the media"
"No, they don't"
"Just look at how the AIPAC work in USA for Israel's cause!"

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Appeal to Authority Rather Than Reason

Argumentum ad verecundiam.
Appeal to authority.
"If so-and-so says it is so, it must be so."

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"This is Beyond Me"

If you have no reply to your opponent's arguments, say that you don't understand the arguments. This strategy demands your audience, because it is based on the your reputation as intelligent man. You're so smart, so if you "don't understand" something, it is because it's senseless, idiotic, irrational, unreasonable and absurd.

It is a form of appealing to an authority - and the authority in question is yourself.

To counter this trick is to say "I beg your pardon; but, with your penetrating intellect, it must be very easy for you to understand anything; and it can only be my poor statement of the matter that is at fault". Keep rubbing it in.

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Put His Thesis Into Some Odious Category

Invalidate the assertion by putting it into some category. What ever he states, confront it by saying "that's —ism". It has no significance whether it is or not, but you are making an impression of that
1) people have tried this with you earlier too and didn't succeed that time either
2) it's utter stupidity to try to push anything —ist, because everyone knows —ism is utter stupidity.

(A response to this is "—ists always call anything they disagree with to —ism and everyone criticising them to —ists".
I don't think it was in common use when Schopenhauer wrote his list. ;))

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It Applies in Theory, But Not in Practice

"That's all very well in theory, but it won't do in practice." This is based on the idea that if a theory is correct, it must work in practice - if it doesn't, the theory is false.

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Don't Let Him Off The Hook

If your opponent tries to use any of these techniques on you, you know you have found a weak point in his argument. Don't let him change the subject.

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Will is More Effective Than Insight

"argumentum ab utili"
Make your opponent believe that if he wins the argument, he will loose the cause, that the conclusion of the arguments he's presenting will lead to harming the things he appreciates. If that doesn't work, make your audience believe that if your opponent wins the argument, THEY will see their cause lost, that the conclusion of your opponent's arguments will harm the things they appreciate. They'll give you their support immediately. If this doesn't work, widen the "target" group - you're fighting for the best of the society, the mankind, the world.

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Bewilder Your opponent by Mere Bombast

Use a lot of words.
If that doesn't fool your opponent, use "fine words" and "learneth expressions"… Faculty language, technical terms, anything that sounds good but expresses nothing. If you don't fool your opponent, you'll fool your audience.

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A Faulty Proof Refutes His Whole Position

Should your opponent choose a faulty proof to support his correct argument, refute it and claim the victory, as if that faulty proof was used to hold the whole argument together.

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Become Personal, Insulting, Rude

If nothing else work, use ad hominem attacks. Get personal, insulting, rude, spiteful, offensive. This should be used as last resort, because you should be able to win the argument without looking bad, or at least looking better man than your opponent.
"Nothing is of greater moment to a man than the gratification of his vanity, and no wound is more painful than that which is inflicted on it."
If your opponent attacks your persona, calmly state that such argument is irrelevant to the question at hands, and continue proving him wrong in the issue.

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Schopenhauer's "The Art of Being Right" is a satirical list of techniques one can use to win an argument. The idea of these techniques is to win an argument - "to be right" - and not to share information or find the "golden middle road".

"For it is with victory that you are concerned, and not with truth"

Schopenhauer ends his list with this:

The only safe rule, therefore, is that which Aristotle mentions in the last chapter of his Topica: not to dispute with the first person you meet, but only with those of your acquaintance of whom you know that they possess sufficient intelligence and self-respect not to advance absurdities; to appeal to reason and not to authority, and to listen to reason and yield to it; and, finally, to cherish truth, to be willing to accept reason even from an opponent, and to be just enough to bear being proved to be in the wrong, should truth lie with him.From this it follows that scarcely one man in a hundred is worth your disputing with him.

You may let the remainder say what they please, for every one is at liberty to be a fool - desipere est jus gentium.

Remember what Voltaire says: La paix vaut encore mieux que la verite (peace is better than truth).

Remember also an Arabian proverb which tells us that on the tree of silence there hangs its fruit, which is peace.

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These techniques SHOULD NOT BE USED.
These are unfair techniques, using logical fallacies, lying, cheating and bullying just to "win" the debate, just "to be right". They don't create understanding between people, don't lead to solutions, create only hurt feelings, disappointment, frustration, anger, and as you use these techniques, people will start avoiding you and stop listening to you. So, even if they do work, in that you will "win" every debate, DON'T USE THEM!

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Findhorn Garden, part IV

So, I'll finish my book review with Roc and Elaine :-)

Robert Ogilvie Crombie, or ROC


“Roc was a loving and gentle man, a wondrous story-teller, a musician, and an embodiment of the best of Scottish charm. He was the wise old man, the grandfatherly figure children adore and the magician who guides heroes and heroines on their paths to accomplishment. He was a man of culture who had one foot in this world and one foot in the world of spirits and mystery”
- A White Wizard, A Seeress, and The Nature Spirits They Played With 

Roc communicated with "nature spirits" or "elemental spirits"

"What is meant by the elemental kingdom?
Ancient and medieval philosophers believed that all matter was mady up of differing combinations of what they called the four elements - earth, air, fire and water. They also believed that these elements were inhabited by beings or entities knows as elementals. While earth, air, fire and water are not elements in the present-day meaning of the word, they remain useful concepts in esoteric and occult teachings, because they have a higher significance than the purely physical one. It is important to understand my interpretation of the word "elemental", since certain schools of thought use the word to mean negative or evil entities from the lower astral plane. There are such entities which should preferably be termed "pseudoelementals", since the true elementals come from a higher plane and are part of the angelic hierarchy".

He tells the story of how he came to communicate with such spirits, fauns, dryads, gnomes, fairies and such, but more so Pan. He too got the lovely idea from Wind in the Willows and The Piper at the Gates of Dawn"... I have to say, if those book fearing Christians would ban books they should ban Wind in the Willows and Mary Poppins, which are largely responsible for my Pagan mindset :-D (Also, C.S.Lewis has had a great influence on my spirituality. So, you don't need to be afraid of his "Christian themes", if you are not Christian, you will just overlook them and not be brainwashed to believe Christian dogma :-D)

Pan says "There is always time for the important things. Communicating with my subjects is not a garden game for the odd half hour when there is nothing else to do. I have observed far too much of this contemptuous superior attitude of man towards my subjects; it is almost worse than disbelief."

 I got a glimpse of fairies once... it was a summertime... after Midsummer, but not Autumn yet. I was walking our dog in the forest and I saw a procession, airy, white, mistlike, but clear, of forest folk with a unicorn, dancing through the forest... I could feel Mother's heartbeat under my feet... I could feel the life of earth...

I need to return there.

The last person writing in The Findhorn Garden I want to mention is Elaine Harrison.
She seems to be a very private person, I can't find any photo of her anywhere.

Elaine tells the story about how she was guided to Findhorn by a pegasus.
Yep.
Not the same way as Roc, no, but she first had a dream in which a pegasus came to her and asked her to ride on him.
Then she received a letter from TTEAM - with a pegasus logo on the envelope.
So, she went through with her plans to become a Ttouch practitioner.
One thing lead to another and another, and finally she found herself at Findhorn. She was supposed to interview Eileen Caddy, and just the day before she noticed the cover image of a book she had received as preparing reading...
Heh.

Anyway, she talks about her experiences about communicating with plants.
"...as a natural empath, animal healer and communicator, I was entirely open to the possibility of receiving something from the plant. I have always fully accepted that plants comunicate and was accustomed to getting intuitive feelings about plants, but to date had not actually received a direct communication from one. However, even accepting all of that, when I did receive a very clear message from the plant I almost dismissed it completely, it simply didn't make sense."

And I remember writing to my reading notes:

"I am thinking about Gaia.
I am thinking about the angel book.
I am thinking about animal communicators."

You see, in the first copy I had of this book, it ended with David's part, and it didn't have Dorothy's messages from the different Devas. I wrote this after Dorothy's part.

So, I think I'm on the right track here.

Elaine Harrison, BTW, has written "How to Develop Telepathic Communication with Animals"

Also, I am reminded by D.J.Conway's Magickal, Mystical Creatures, which I need to re-read...


Findhorn Garden, Part III

David Spangler...

I put David here next, because I hate his part, and it would be better if it never got in the book.
He sounds totally fake to me.

Peter said "In 1970 a young man (25) David Spangler and his spiritual colleague Myrtle Glines came to Findhorn from America. For several years before that, David had been a lecturer and writer on New Age themes. When he arrived he found us to be a dozen or so people working in a garden and living a God-centered life. Within the following eighteen months community membership grew to 150. During David's three year stay our identity expanded into that of a New Age community and training center."

He was 19 when he was asked to speak about his "guides" to a larger public, and a year later he left his studies and became a professional New Ager... "lecturer, educator, counselor"...
He went to Findhorn because he found "words to be not enough to bring about the New World" and Findhorn was what he had been looking for... Nevertheless, immediately as he arrived to the garden, he starts changing it. He has had this "spirit guide", "John", who suddenly becomes some sort of emissary "representing the interests and the consciousness of the elemental kingdoms", thus placing "John" as higher authority than Pan, Landscape Angel, even God. They haven't needed any emissaries so far, they didn't need one 1970 either, but David needed the power and authority.
Now, in Findhorn, people are used to simple, humble and sincere authorities of Peter, Eileen, Dorothy and Roc, who actually do hear what the other life forms are saying, and David is not stupid, so he creates the "messages" so that they sound like those coming from God and Devas.
That the garden is slowly losing the vitality doesn't worry anyone, they have David to tell them it's as it should be.

"Are you saying there must be changes mede in the way the gardening is being done here at Findhorn?"
"That is what I am saying", answers "John".

Yeah, sure...

He doesn't see the nature spirits and devas as equals, no, he sees Man as superior, God-like and with a mission to dominate the world. I hate it when he repeats over and over again "Man has dominion over nature".
"John" sayd "the nature kingdoms look to you to lead them". 
"John" says "Man primarily needs only to communicate to the beings of nature what is required without any other physical activity on his part..." 
The humans are here to lead, counsel, teach, lecture and educate, train these "dumb beasts" into being better themselves as they already are.

Through it all he shows a sad misunderstanding of the nature of devas and nature spirits.

"There are beings that regard humanity as a nuisance at best, a dangerous, disruptive force at worst..."
I get the impression that the nature spirits see us as some sort of lost, confused, incomprehensible children, not aware of our own power or meaning, blind, deaf, dumb, but oh, so prideful, playing our mysterious games and causing damage, like a child ripping off wings from a fly because it doesn't understand the fly is a sentient being, a dot of life, as important as we are.

Nah. I say he's fake. Now, I haven't met him, nor spoken with him, I have no other experience of him, but when Peter's, Eileen's, Dorothy's and Roc's story fills me with love, gratitude and hope, David fills me with distaste, suspicions, and takes me down.
That's all the evidence I need.